The act of whining gets our attention. By design is it annoying, so we focus on it, speak to it, and spotlight it. For little ones, negative attention is still attention and the more frustrated we get, the more likely we are to give in. It gets your attention and it draws you closer to them.

There is always a reason behind their behaviour, so we cannot take their physical reactions at face value, we need to dive deeper and understand the reason that is driving their reaction or behaviour